White Horse
*Sitting back, tired, listening to Alicia Keys and Jill Scott....AKA my thinking music*
Relationships are a dime a dozen; they come in different shapes and forms. A relationship doesn't have to be defined as a man and a woman; we have relationships with friends (guys and girls), parents, co-workers, college buddies, etc. Even with the different types of relationships you have in your life, you can always but a price; or a "worth" on it. Easy question to ask to determine your worth is "How much does that person mean to me". Your feelings will tell the rest.
I had a opportunity in the last couple of weeks to talk to different people, one of whom is very close to me, the other is a really good friend; about the different scenarios happening in their lives. I value that as the greatest aspect of friendship, being able to put your faults aside to a person who will tell you their advice; be it good or bad, you listen and try to see where they are going with their thoughts. Sometimes it might be right, other times it might be wrong, but you still sit down and discuss what is on your mind.
The first person, who is very close to me, damn near a brother to me, has had his share of ups and downs, rights and lefts with relationships. I have seen it, heard about it and lived it with him for years. Even though he has been in the same situation (or a variation of it) before, this time it was really weird. He came to me a month ago with a problem in his relationship, I told him my piece (to which a female bystander, in shock, agreed with me) and wouldn't you know, it went down exactly how I said it would. I don't know if I have a gift, but I can read people very well, almost to the point I know what they are thinking, but I am getting off topic.
He came back to me a couple of weeks later and said that his relationship is on the rocks, I told him "I will reserve my comments". Reason? Cause I know him, I know his heart and I know (somewhat) what he was going through. After a week, we finally had time to talk about what happened in the days after I told him my quote. He told me everything that happened, to which I pointed out why I told him I wouldn't comment on his situation, he looked puzzled, and amazed at the same time. Then, out of no where he hit me with something that I thought was so noble it shocked me, and also made me proud. "I much rather wait then to throw this (relationship) away". It didn't hit me till later that night, but I can't remember ANY of my friends saying that about a relationship (besides myself, I always felt I was alone on that one). It made me proud cause I see how much he valued his relationship, that it wasn't something that can easily be forgotten with time. It really shocked me....Really did
My other friend (intern), as crazy as he is, he is someone who I knew would be noble. During lunch he described his night with his "girl". I got the quick and dirty version through out the week, which of course I made fun of, as did everyone, but when I heard the whole story, again, I was floored. To give you a quick version of the story, he went out the celebrate his "girl"s 21st b-day, had a interesting night which included a missing purse, cops, Pizza Boli's, two dudes and car alarms. Everything he did for his girl when she was at her worse is something that is what a relationship is about (saving her life and going everywhere looking for a purse). The fact that he would pretty much give up a night to help her out was a real "stand up" thing to do.
I guess these stories are a eye opener for me, as to me, I was always brought up as a "gentlemen" and to be nothing less than that. Treat woman and men with respect and know your boundaries and your limits for everything. I feel that most of my friends have abandoned that, or have turned their backs on it; not saying that's a bad thing, but also I don't see it as a good thing either. I felt that I was the only one on the white horse with the shiny armor on, carrying my woman in distress off onto the sunset....Seems like I have company now...Welcomed company.
Relationships are a dime a dozen; they come in different shapes and forms. A relationship doesn't have to be defined as a man and a woman; we have relationships with friends (guys and girls), parents, co-workers, college buddies, etc. Even with the different types of relationships you have in your life, you can always but a price; or a "worth" on it. Easy question to ask to determine your worth is "How much does that person mean to me". Your feelings will tell the rest.
I had a opportunity in the last couple of weeks to talk to different people, one of whom is very close to me, the other is a really good friend; about the different scenarios happening in their lives. I value that as the greatest aspect of friendship, being able to put your faults aside to a person who will tell you their advice; be it good or bad, you listen and try to see where they are going with their thoughts. Sometimes it might be right, other times it might be wrong, but you still sit down and discuss what is on your mind.
The first person, who is very close to me, damn near a brother to me, has had his share of ups and downs, rights and lefts with relationships. I have seen it, heard about it and lived it with him for years. Even though he has been in the same situation (or a variation of it) before, this time it was really weird. He came to me a month ago with a problem in his relationship, I told him my piece (to which a female bystander, in shock, agreed with me) and wouldn't you know, it went down exactly how I said it would. I don't know if I have a gift, but I can read people very well, almost to the point I know what they are thinking, but I am getting off topic.
He came back to me a couple of weeks later and said that his relationship is on the rocks, I told him "I will reserve my comments". Reason? Cause I know him, I know his heart and I know (somewhat) what he was going through. After a week, we finally had time to talk about what happened in the days after I told him my quote. He told me everything that happened, to which I pointed out why I told him I wouldn't comment on his situation, he looked puzzled, and amazed at the same time. Then, out of no where he hit me with something that I thought was so noble it shocked me, and also made me proud. "I much rather wait then to throw this (relationship) away". It didn't hit me till later that night, but I can't remember ANY of my friends saying that about a relationship (besides myself, I always felt I was alone on that one). It made me proud cause I see how much he valued his relationship, that it wasn't something that can easily be forgotten with time. It really shocked me....Really did
My other friend (intern), as crazy as he is, he is someone who I knew would be noble. During lunch he described his night with his "girl". I got the quick and dirty version through out the week, which of course I made fun of, as did everyone, but when I heard the whole story, again, I was floored. To give you a quick version of the story, he went out the celebrate his "girl"s 21st b-day, had a interesting night which included a missing purse, cops, Pizza Boli's, two dudes and car alarms. Everything he did for his girl when she was at her worse is something that is what a relationship is about (saving her life and going everywhere looking for a purse). The fact that he would pretty much give up a night to help her out was a real "stand up" thing to do.
I guess these stories are a eye opener for me, as to me, I was always brought up as a "gentlemen" and to be nothing less than that. Treat woman and men with respect and know your boundaries and your limits for everything. I feel that most of my friends have abandoned that, or have turned their backs on it; not saying that's a bad thing, but also I don't see it as a good thing either. I felt that I was the only one on the white horse with the shiny armor on, carrying my woman in distress off onto the sunset....Seems like I have company now...Welcomed company.
posted by BMass at 22:45
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